If you have ever watched MSNBC‘s Morning Joe, then you are probably familiar with Mika Brzezinski. I choose to blog about Knowing Your Value, because it seems like everyone wants to go around saying that they are fine and present a facade that life is perfect, but in reality we are all troubled with similar problems. This is especially true regarding problems surrounding women in the workplace. In order to for all of us to move forward, there needs to be more discussion about these realities. (At the very least, you can read the discussion that takes place in the book over a weekend.)
Part of the reason why this book is notable is because it is about Mika Brzezinski and other female leaders. Their background and status might allude to a certain amount privilege, but after reading this book one quickly realizes that everyone has to put up with their own fair share of b.s. Some of the b.s. is created by others, but there is a good amount that is self-created. In an effort to guide readers on how to stop making their lives harder, Knowing Your Value provides lessons drawn from experiences of current women leaders.
10 Things I Learned from Knowing Your Value:
1. Always ask, even if people place limits on questions, ask anyway. Don’t stop asking, because you feel lucky to have the job, have children, or will have children in the future. You will not know the answer, unless you ask for the job, raise, promotion etc.
2. Be prepared, even if you are not currently valued, your value will be re-assessed if you are the only prepared person.
3. Don’t measure value by being liked or flattered, because being liked or flattered does not pay the bills.
4. Authenticity is easily observed. Don’t act like a guy, if that isn’t you.
5. Men feel uncomfortable when women get angry (e.g. “what is wrong with her”), but love flattery (not flirting).
6. Don’t do anything for free. If you do work for free become indispensable, then you will have a place to negotiate from.
7. Ignore labels, especially those that attribute characteristics that would be considered unseemly to a lady. (E.g. “forceful,” “loud,” and “aggressive”).
8. When negotiating, outline your achievements in a clear and concise manner, know what your peers are making, and do not play the victim card (e.g. mother’s ill, kids, etc.)
9. Always have somewhere else to go, so you are prepared when someone says no.
10. Just because there are more women in management, does not mean that women don’t need to stick together or that their issues are any less pressing.
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